Frequently Asked Questions

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This page is broken down into two sections. The first (headings in red) are what you absolutely must know before registering.

The second (headings in black) are also very important, but if you’re skimming….please do not skim the sections in red.

Pre-payment: The pre-pay feature is non-refundable. Menstrual cycles, babysitters, deaths and all kinds of things can keep you from attending. If you cannot make a party, your RSVP is transferred to the next party. For example, if you register for the April party but do not show up, you will automatically be placed into the May party. However, this is one month only. You would be deleted and need to register again if you miss the second party as well. In summary, any no-shows can use their ticket for the following party, but ONLY the following party.

The party begins at 8:00. Speed dating begins at 9:00. New couples need to be there between 8 and 9 for the tour. The last party admittance is 10:30.

Winter Weather Policy (words in red updated 2-11-18)

Very unlikely to happen, but here is our winter weather cancellation policy.  If there is a “Winter Storm Warning” or “Blizzard Warning” covering  6:01 pm, the party will be canceled and you’ll be notified via the email address you provided when you registered. The location covered by these warnings will be the club location in Yorkville, Illinois, and the determination will be made the morning of the party. 

It’s possible that the weather is a shit show in your location yet the party isn’t cancelled because the club isn’t covered by the official National Weather Service’s warning for Yorkville.

If the party is cancelled, you will not receive a refund but your RSVP automatically transferred to the next party. December will be transferred to January, etc.

That’s the policy. Very unlikely to happen, but if it does, that is what we will follow.

We are over 42 but look and feel younger, can we come? Hey we get it. The male half of the host couple is 37 but probably looks older than some people in their 40’s. It’s awkward enough having an age limit, it would be even more so to try to make judgment calls about how old someone looks. For that reason, we’re making the cut-off at 42 years of age. To attend these parties, you must be age 42 or younger.

Do you guys hate people over 42? Absolutely not! In fact, we’re both very attracted to people over 42. The majority of our swinging experiences have been with couples older than ourselves, many of them incredibly hot! However, we know that many young couples avoid clubs due to the perception that there will be a significant age gap between the average attendee and themselves. We have a number of couples in this group that are in their early 20’s. Remember how old you felt someone 45 was when you were 21!

Quite honestly, if you’re 50 years old, you’re going to feel like a fish out of water at our parties. Some of our attendees still live at home with their parents.

I’m below 42 but my partner is over 42, can we attend? Both members of the couple have to be aged 42 or below.

I’m a super awesome single male, can I attend? No.

I’m a super awesome single female, can I attend? Yes. The single female price is 1/2 of the couple price. Just use coupon code SINGLEFEMALE when you register, to make it half-off, and then register just as a couple would.

What time is the party? You can show up as early as 7:30, the party begins at 8 pm and the doors are locked at 10:30. You will not be allowed into the building after 10:30 pm. 

Where is the club located? You’ll receive directions after you’ve registered, but for right now just know that it’s in the Yorkville/Oswego Illinois area.

Will I need to bring my identification? Yes, if you’re new, you’ll need to bring something that shows you’re at least 21 years old. No one will copy your id or anything like that. Just look at it, and give it back to you.

What exactly happens when we arrive? After arriving the first person you see will be the receptionist running the front desk. She checks the RSVP list to make sure that you have registered and paid and then asks you if you are new and if you are staying the night. If you’re new, she checks your ID to make sure that you’re at least 21 years old. Then she makes sure that you get a tour and if you are staying the night she helps you select a room.

Then you will have an opportunity to store your belongings in a locker and then be given a personal tour of the facility. The party begins at 8, with organized activities beginning at 9:15. Around 10:30 the party’s organized activities cease and it becomes a typical nightclub with mingling, dancing and drinking.

What is speed dating? When you arrive you are assigned a number. At 9:15 an announcement will be made and everyone goes to their speed dating number. Every three minutes you will switch to another couple and talk with them for three minutes. People often wonder, “what do we talk about?” or “what should I ask a couple during speed dating?” Honestly the three minutes goes by so quickly, you’ll likely only have time to say your names, an anecdote or two and then it’s off to the next couple. It’s a great way to recognize faces and names later. “Hey they seemed cute and fun lets talk to them later!” Speed dating is mandatory, and a hallmark of YCP events. You’ll love it!

Can we spend the night? Yes! We hate drinking and driving, we want everyone to make it home safely. For that very reason we negotiated free overnight stays when we made arrangements with the club owners. When you arrive the receptionist will ask you if you’d like to spent the night. If you answer yes, she will help you choose your room. These rooms are available on a first-come-first-served basis. If you want a private room, I advise you to arrive at 7:30 so you can choose from all of them.

The rooms are the sex/play rooms. The rooms are not as nice as (for example) the Hampton Inn that is 15 minutes away. However, they are relatively clean, safe and quiet after 2 am and clean sheets are available. You can make yourself more comfortable by bringing additional pillows and blankets.

We understand that sometimes people drink more than they planned to. You can always stay at the club, even if you earlier stated that you weren’t. We may run out of rooms towards the end of the evening, but we will find you a place to sleep. Please, please, please do not drink home while intoxicated.

What is the club like? The club is an established swinger club that has been in operation for 22 years. It’s basically a large house/mansion that has operates only as a club (no one lives there). We rent the facility one day per month to hold our events.

The club is professionally cleaned after each event. It has two swimming pools, two hot tubs, a dance floor with a stripper pole, 16 beds in ten bedrooms for people to “play” if they choose to.

Take a video tour of the facility here.

What are your parties like? There three main differences between a YCP event and most other parties are the ages, speed dating and start times.

All attendees are between 21 and 42 years old. Each event sells out with approximately 80 couples ticketed prior to each event. Usually about 20 new couples attend each month.

We have “swinger speed dating” which is just exactly what it sounds like. You spend three minutes talking with a couple, then switch. It’s an amazing way to get to know everyone in a  pressure free way. Then it’s off to the main party area to do whatever your heart desires. Mingle, dance, drink, get in the hot tub…..just have fun with your new friends.

Other parties have attendees filtering in over the course of the evening, like a typical nightclub. If you actually arrive “on time” you might feel silly because there will only be a few people there. At YCP parties, the party begins at 8 and by 8:30 the club is completely full.

What about STDS? The party is definitely not an orgy. It is like any other bar or nightclub, only the people are way nicer and if you meet someone or a couple that you click with, there are places that you can have sex.

As with any other sexual situation, feel free to talk with potential partners about safe sex, stds and ask if they are tested. No one is going to think you’re weird for asking, in fact, they will appreciate your responsibility.

If you’d like to get tested, we recommend using this company and using this link.

What are the rules of swinging? The most important rules are to always ask before touching and “no means no.” Those rules are posted on every swinger blog and website but those issues almost never arise. Most people aren’t morons. LOL There are some additional club rules like “no drinks upstairs” that will be explained on your tour.

We don’t think we’re ready for this. We’re new! We’ve been in the lifestyle for ten years. If you are meeting people via websites you will likely have far more drama than you ever would at a club. We have tried this multiple times. You chat with couples online, then agree to meet in person where you may find they no longer look like their online photos or you don’t have chemistry with them but are now stuck in an awkward dinner arrangement. Or you may find that you have great chemistry and meet up several times, however at some point, a “break-up” will happen…meaning that one couple will want to keep meeting but the other just won’t be “feeling it” anymore.

When you attend a club, you have the opportunity to chat with several couples without the awkwardness. Attendees range from those who just enjoy the atmosphere, to those who like to play with their significant other in a thrilling environment, to full-swap swingers, and everything in between. If you and your significant other can be comfortable being in the presence of naked people without jealously then you will be fine.

Will you text us details about the party? No, we don’t text lifestyle friends. Both of our phones are used for business purposes in the vanilla world. However we are happy to communicate via email, KIK, Kasidie or SLS. We both check our email frequently so you will likely get a response from us almost immediately.

What should we wear? It’s almost always ladies who ask this question when they honestly have the least to worry about. Let’s address the guys first.

Guys: Dress to impress. Do not wear tennis shoes or a t-shirt unless you are participating in the party theme. For example, if the theme is “Christmas: Naughty or Nice” and you want to wear an ugly Christmas sweater….great! If the theme is “spring break” and you want to wear a tank top because it fits the beach theme…..great! However, if you’re not in theme, err on the side of dressing up.

This doesn’t mean you need to wear designer clothes. Just go with “business casual” or better and you’ll be fine. A shirt with a collar, dress shoes, etc. You will never look foolish by “over dressing,” the guy in suit will look great whereas the guy in the oversized t-shirt will be asked to leave.

Example of more risqué club wear.
Example of more risqué club wear.

Ladies: Wear whatever makes you feel the sexiest. At your typical club there will be women baring a lot, like exposed breasts and barely-there panties. There will also be women almost completely covered. It’s entirely up to you.

A common “swing club” dress is a simple club dress.

Bottom line: you will fit in no matter what but a swing club is the perfect time to wear WHATEVER makes you feel the hottest, without having to fear being judged. If that’s a dress that exposes your breasts and 8″ heels…great! You’ll fit right in! if you’re completely covered but those designer jeans make your ass look fantastic…..great!

I don’t have the “perfect body,” will I fit in? This is a question that we hear a lot. You will find that there is every type of body at our events. Swingers come in all shapes and sizes. You will absolutely fit in, no matter what your size. On some of these questions, you’ll simply have to trust us. Believe us, by 10 pm you will be so comfortable you’ll feel like you’ve been attending clubs for  years.

Will everyone be smoking? This was our biggest fear getting into the lifestyle. When we hear “private club” we imagine the smoke being so thick that you cannot even breath. Not true! Smoking is not allowed inside the club.

If you do smoke, please attend, and you will find a smoking area outside that is heated for your comfort.

Can I use my vape pen? In the smoking area only. Not inside.

Will people be using illegal drugs? No, illegal drugs are not allowed on premises, including marijuana. We have no moral objections to pot, but it’s still illegal in Illinois, so you can’t bring it.

We’re new, what if I can’t “perform?” This is so common. Many young, healthy males who have never had an issue suddenly discover they aren’t invincible in a club. Even if you aren’t feeling nervous, your penis might be. If it happens, shrug it off as best you can, it will be better next time, most likely. Again, trust us….it is common for new swingers. Many men in the lifestyle use an ED drug (Viagra, etc.), for this very reason.

The parties are BYOB. What exactly does that mean? It means that mixers (soda, etc.), ice and cups are provided but you are responsible for your alcohol. There are refrigerators for anything you’d like to keep cold.

Do I need cash? No. In fact, please do not bring any cash inside of the building.

What do we need to bring with us? Everything is up to you….alcohol, condoms, etc. If you’re new you will need to bring in your personal identification (driver’s license, etc.)

Is the club in a safe neighborhood? Yes. It’s about as safe as a place can be.

Can we join the Facebook group?  We have a Facebook group that is very active. It currently has 250 members and several posts per day. It even has a weekly photo contest and occasional discounts to parties.

Some members choose to create a Facebook profile that is anonymous. Others use their regular Facebook profile with their faces, families and friends. Because of this we are protective of the group.

Once you register for a party, you will receive instructions on how to join the Facebook group.