Why we don’t allow RSVPs on Swinger Dating Sites

The most popular swinger dating site in the area is Swinglifestyle (SLS).

An example of a party RSVP on SLS

 

We could post our event on SLS and allow people to RSVP on that website. That would create a party roster for our event and a badge would appear on people’s profile indicating that they were attending.

That would increase the visibility of our event considerably. Likely a few thousand people would see those badges. We do not do this, however, and here is why:

1. Unpaid RSVP lists are nonsense.

Allowing people to simply click a button to indicate they are attending an event is no real indication that they are attending. What percentage of those people are actually attending that event? 25%? 50%?

Some couples on SLS have badges for two separate events on the same day. Are they attending both? Of course not. They didn’t pay, and they are just indicating that they MIGHT go. While this can make an event seem really popular and therefore get others to want to jump in on the fun, we want a completely accurate RSVP list. Our RSVP list is a list of people who have purchased a non-refundable ticket to that event.

Side note: I’m definitely not criticizing parties that use this feature. Most parties are cash-at-the door and do not have the ability to show RSVPs on their own websites. A feature like this is a powerful tool for a lot of promoters. 

2. People need to go to our website and learn about YCP before deciding to attend. YCP is totally different. 

We have 9/10 of our attendees in the door by 9 pm.

We have mandatory speed dating.

We have an age limit.

We have a dress code.

We have people write to us all the time and say, “we’ve been to XYZ event so we pretty much know the drill.” I reply, “YCP is totally different, and it may not be for you, read the entire website thoroughly.”

3. We do not want people just “showing up.”

We do not allow cash-at-the-door. Everything is paid in advance, via credit card.

We communicate thoroughly with new couples, including instructional videos on party features like speed dating and monitoring who has read the new couple emails and who hasn’t. If you haven’t read the email, you get another email. Didn’t read that one? You get a text message, etc.

Bottom line. Almost all clubs and events are operated in exactly the same way. The only possible difference being if they allow single men or not. YCP is different. Totally different. Therefore, it’s not for everyone, and people really need to know that.

By the way, if you haven’t yet signed up for a swinger dating website. We recommend Kasidie, not SLS. Not because of these party RSVPs, but just general design.