Swinging is a different ballgame entirely…

I’m sitting on the couch, and her pussy is just above my cock. She’s straddling me as her nipples brush my mouth, back and forth. We’ve been kissing and undressing each other for a half-hour, she’s dying for me to enter her, and the feeling is more than mutual. She’s so beautiful and seductive. I’m completely lost in her, and I’m hard as a rock.

All I want to do is slide into her, which seems like the most natural thing in the world, but we always play with condoms. Suddenly my brain has to switch from the primitive reflex of sexual desire to the complex thought of looking for something that is lost. Where the fuck is a condom?

I look on both sides of the couch. No condoms.

I look on the floor. No condoms.

I lean her back a bit so I can look behind her. No condoms.

Finally, I have to ask her to move so I can begin the search. I look around for a minute or two, becoming more and more flustered. Finally, I do the one thing I didn’t want to do and interrupt my wife’s fun and ask her.

She tells me, so I rummage through my wife’s bag of items she brought. I’m pulling out clothes, snacks, a bottle of water, vibrators, and finally get a condom that had settled into the very bottom of this bag.

I start to head back to the couch, to this stunning woman that I’m dying to get intimate with and realize that I’m completely soft. The frustration of looking for a condom has not just restarted my sexual arousal back at where we started but retarded it. I’m not even at baseline now, being flustered while looking for a condom has somehow completely shut off my cock.

We restart some foreplay, and after a few minutes in the hands of a very caring and skilled lover, I’m almost, but not quite, hard. I ask her to put the condom on because I knew her hands on my cock would help me maintain what I had. Once it’s on, I begin to enter her.

Now I’m in the awkward situation of trying to enter her when I’m not all the way hard, using my hand to guide my cock into her. My cock is bending. It’s a process. Most of us guys have experienced this at some point.

I know that if I get a stroke or two inside her, I will stiffen, and everything would work correctly. But now the inevitable happens when our cocks don’t work quite as we expect, I began to think about it.

“Why isn’t my cock hard?”

“What if today is the day it just doesn’t work at all?”

“Jesus, I hate condoms so fucking much!”

All of this could have been avoided, however, if I’d of just used my erectile dysfunction medication.

It’s almost inevitable

I’m not alone. Our events are for couples between 21-42 years of age. Most of the men in our group have never experienced an erection problem in their lives. I’d say many of the men in their early 20’s are probably getting erections even when they don’t want one! Swinging is an entirely different ballgame, however. It’s often a new partner, in a strange environment, with other people in the room. Those other people may very well be your wife or girlfriend being intimate with someone else. Even if you’re feeling calm and confident, your subconscious may be hitting all sorts of panic alarms that can cause your cock to go into hibernation.

It’s easy to fix …here’s how

Ten years ago, your only solution was to go to your family doctor. Which, if you’re young and having erection problems, is going to lead to all sorts of questions about your lifestyle that perhaps you’d rather not get into. Then, prescription in hand, you’d stand in line at the pharmacy to buy Viagra or Cialis for around $40 per pill.

Not anymore. Now you can get Bluechew with the same active ingredients as Viagra or Cialis (you choose) with plans starting as low as $20 per month. Prices have fallen from $40 per pill to around $4.00 per pill.

There are several competing versions of generic Viagra or Cialis. We prefer Bluechew for these reasons.

1. It’s chewable, which means it works two times faster than a pill, and you do not need water. If you prefer to keep your usage discrete, it merely looks like you’re eating a breath mint as opposed to swallowing a pill. You could do it at the dinner table, and no one would know.

2. It’s entirely online. You click the banner ad and follow the website’s directions. Use promo code YCP. It’s prescribed by a doctor, seamlessly and quickly through the website. Once approved, your order ships right away, and you’ll have your product in around one week.

3. We are an affiliate partner with Bluechew. That means when you purchase Bluechew, through our link, we receive a commission. That helps YCP continue to grow!

Your first month is free, and you can cancel or pause at any time. There isn’t a contract. 

About half of new couples sign up before their first event, and 126 YCP men have an active subscription. We think you should as well.