I’m writing this blog post for other swinger lifestyle group owners.

Our Secret Facebook Group is quite active. It averages around 35,000 posts, likes, and comments per month and only one community standard violations per month.

Facebook’s censorship doesn’t bother me. I’ve learned to live with it, and here’s how.

Facebook examines 4000 photographs per second. That figure alone tells you that humans are not involved and that it’s a computer algorithm. The algorithm cannot reason like a person could, and is often wrong.

It would be best if you didn’t even bother reading Facebook’s community standards because their system cannot interpret images correctly every time. It does little good to understand that a speed limit is 55 MPH, for example, if random people are getting speeding tickets for going 45 MPH.

It’s better to realize you need to drive below 45 MPH and stop worrying about if that’s “fair” or not.

A good example is nudity. Facebook consistently deletes images that aren’t nude, but the algorithm judged them as such. Don’t tease facebook with nudity. The photograph needs to prove to Facebook that the person is clothed, and you do that by showing a lot of cloth pixels over private areas.

If the user believes their image is sexy because they are almost nude, it will trigger the algorithm. Everyone needs to demonstrate that they are clothed.

Instead of posing topless and using “stickers” to cover their nipples, they should pose in a sexy bra instead, for example.

We have also banned images of sex toys, and all sexual touching of others, even over clothing.

Our exact rules are listed below.

Now you may be thinking, “I’m anti-censorship and don’t want to tell people what they can and cannot, post in our Facebook group.” Look, you either need to leave Facebook, or implement rules that keep your users out of trouble. Just continually complaining about the situation, neither changes facebook or protect your users.

We’ve found that the more we moderate our group, the better it has become. Before this, Facebook was deleting our user’s images and banishing offenders to “Facebook jail.” Users are happier understanding what is allowed and what isn’t. It’s very frustrating for users to have images deleted by Facebook and not understanding why.

Further, while I am pro-pornography and pro-swinging, I don’t believe nudity is necessary to have a viable swinger lifestyle group. You can read more about that here.

YCP’s complete Facebook group rules below:

Group rules.
The ban on nudity includes “implied nudity.”
If your photo is framed low enough that your bellybutton is showing, you need to show that you’re covering your privates.
Ladies, if your sternum is visible, then you have to show a top covering.
No stickers.
No handbras. If your hands are on your tits at all, Facebook will pull your picture 100% of the time. Even if it’s in a non-sexual way, like you’re holding your shirt up and your hand just happens to be on your breasts.
?Sexual activity
Do not post images showing someone touching themselves sexually or touching someone else sexually, even through clothes.
?Sex toys and pornography
Please do not post images of sex toys or pornography, even cropped pornography.
?Anonymity and activity
You need to post, like or comment on something at least once every sixty days, and attend at least one YCP event per year.
Memes are only allowed on Thursdays. Please only post once.
No cartoon nudity or sex.
No stick-figure nudity or sex.
No cropped images from pornography.
No sex toys.
At least 80% of our moderator deletions are memes. It doesn’t matter if you found it elsewhere on Facebook.
?Friend Requests and Private Messages
Do not send anyone a friend request unless you ask them via private message first.
?Post deletions
If a moderator removes your photograph, do not lash out. We have to pull posts to keep our group from being removed.
?Offended or argumentative
If something in the group has offended you, do not respond argumentatively and do not report it to Facebook.
?Promoting or reviewing other lifestyle events, your business, promotions, or your own party.
Please do not promote other lifestyle events in the YCP group, or add YCP members to different Facebook groups without permission.
Do not review other groups or events. These are sometimes negative, and this isn’t the appropriate venue to discuss how much or liked or hated other events.
You can ask for dates in the group. E.g. “The Mrs. and I are free Saturday night, would anyone like to go dancing?” However, you cannot promote an organized event like, “The Mrs. and I invite all of you to our favorite bar on Saturday night.”
?Please do not promote your business/hobby. For example, “I have eight openings at my CrossFit gym.”