Has this happened to you?

I’m sitting on the couch, and her pussy is just above my cock. She’s straddling me as her nipples brush my mouth, back and forth. We’ve been kissing and undressing each other for a half-hour, she’s dying for me to enter her, and the feeling is more than mutual. She’s so beautiful and seductive. I’m completely lost in her, and I’m hard as a rock.

All I want to do is slide into her, which seems like the most natural thing in the world, but we always play with condoms. Suddenly my brain has to switch from the primitive reflex of sexual desire to the complex thought of looking for something that is lost. Where the fuck is a condom?

I look on both sides of the couch. No condoms.

I look on the floor. No condoms.

I lean her back a bit so I can look behind her. No condoms.

Finally, I have to ask her to move so I can begin the search. I look around for a minute or two, becoming more and more flustered. Finally, I do the one thing I didn’t want to do, and that interrupts my wife’s fun and ask her.

She tells me, so I rummage through my wife’s bag of items she brought. I’m pulling out clothes, snacks, a bottle of water, vibrators, and finally get a condom that had settled into the very bottom of this bag.

I start to head back to the couch, to this stunning woman that I’m dying to get intimate with and realize that I’m completely soft. The frustration of looking for a condom has not just restarted my sexual arousal back at where we started but retarded it. 

I’m not even at baseline now, flustered while looking for a condom has somehow completely shut off my cock.

We restart some foreplay, and after a few minutes in the hands of a very caring and skilled lover, I’m almost, but not quite, hard. I ask her to put the condom on, because I knew her hands on my cock would help me maintain what I had. Once it’s on, I begin to enter her.

Now I’m in the awkward situation of trying to enter her when I’m not all the way hard, using my hand to guide my cock into her. My cock is bending. It’s a process. Most of us guys have experienced this at some point.

I know that if I get a stroke or two inside her, I will stiffen, and everything would work correctly. But now the inevitable happens when our cocks don’t work quite as we expect, I began to think about it.

“Why isn’t my cock hard?”

“What if today is the day it just doesn’t work at all?”

“Jesus, I hate condoms so fucking much!”

But with a reassuring smile from her, I was in her and rock hard in a minute or two. All of this could have been avoided, however, if I’d of just used my erectile dysfunction medication.

When I made the decision not to, it made perfect sense to me. We weren’t going to be drinking. We’ve been swinging with this couple for three years. We’re terrific friends and comfortable with each other. I never imagined that there would be any nervousness at all, but one misplaced condom sent just enough stress hormone into my blood to complicate everything.

It’s almost inevitable

I’m not alone. Our events are for couples between 21-42 years of age. Most of the men in our group have never experienced an erection problem in their lives. I’d say many of the men in their early 20’s are probably getting erections even when they don’t want one! Swinging is an entirely different ballgame, however. It’s often a new partner, in a strange environment, with other people in the room. Those other people may very well be your wife or girlfriend being intimate with someone else. Even if you’re feeling calm and confident, your subconscious may be hitting all sorts of panic alarms that can cause your cock to go into hibernation.

It’s devastating to women

This sudden loss of invincibility has a predictable emotional outcome for the men, but it seems to be especially unnerving for the ladies. As party hosts, we hear about this all the time. It’s not unusual for a woman to have a streak of 5,6,7,8 or even 10 or more men in a row unable to perform. This leaves even the most confident woman shaken, as she will begin to think there is something wrong with her. One woman in our Facebook group, who has a body most models would be envious of, said she began to think something was disgusting about her body when she encountered man after man saying, “this has never happened to me before.”

It’s easy to fix… here’s how

Ten years ago, your only solution was to go to your family doctor. Which, if you’re young and having erection problems, is going to lead to all sorts of questions about your lifestyle that perhaps you’d rather not get into. Then, prescription in hand, you’d stand in line at the pharmacy to buy Viagra or Cialis for around $40 per pill.

Not anymore. Now you can get Bluechew with the same active ingredients as Viagra or Cialis (you choose) with plans starting as low as $20 per month. Prices have fallen from $40 per pill to around $4.00 per pill.

There are several competing versions of generic Viagra or Cialis. We prefer Bluechew for these reasons.

1. It’s chewable, which means it works two times faster than a pill, and you do not need water. If you prefer to keep your usage discrete, it simply looks like you’re eating a breath mint as opposed to swallowing a pill. You could do it at the dinner table and no one would know.

2. It’s entirely online. You click one of the banner ads on this page and follow the website’s directions. It’s prescribed by a doctor, seamlessly and quickly through the website. Once approved your order ships right away.

3. It’s individually wrapped. We love this because you can take one Bluechew to a party or date, and not have to worry about losing all of your medication.

4. We are an affiliate partner with Bluechew. That means when you purchase Bluechew, through our link, we receive a commission. That helps YCP continue to grow!

If you’re a man in the lifestyle, you should consider this.

Anecdotally, I can tell you that most men in the lifestyle take an ED drug. Frankly, older men in the lifestyle have fewer erection problems because they no longer rely on their bravado, and are wise enough to know to use help.

There is nothing wrong with a man having erection issues. It happens to everyone, and it’s merely a part of life. There is something wrong, however, of not doing anything about it when getting Bluechew takes about 10 minutes and costs as little as $20 per month.

If you’re currently using something from out of the Country or something you’ve bought from a friend, you need to stop that immediately. Bluechew is prescribed by licensed physicians and made in the United States. Doing anything other than that is just not safe.

We are an affiliate partner with Bluechew. So when you click the link below and order, it helps Young Couples Party. Mostly, however, it’s going to help you and any ladies you have the opportunity to spend some time with much more.